YOU’RE a mysterious condition turned 2 today!
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YOU’RE a mysterious condition turned 2 today!
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You know that feeling some people get when they hear or think about fingernails on a chalkboard?
That’s how I feel when I have a wooden popsicle stick in my mouth. I love popsicles, but I hate those sticks. They make me shudder, and make my teeth and jaw hurt, my throat closes up and it leaves me nauseous. When I do eat a popsicle, I usually manage to keep the sticks out of my mouth, but just having them near freaks me out. It used to not be super bad, so I could still eat popsicles, but lately I don’t even want to look at popsicles.
For the past week or so, things keep reminding me of popsicle sticks and leaving me with that really gross sensation. Every time I open the freezer I feel it. Sometimes, just being in the garden makes me feel it. It’s making me sick and anxious.
I just don’t know what to do about it.
ugh yes i get this too!! i hate the feel of wood in my mouth to the point where even seeing someone use a wooden kitchen spoon makes my mouth feel weird.
could you maybe take the popsicle off the stick and eat it out of a bowl with a spoon? or take it off the stick and wrap it in something (like a bit of clingfilm or something) so you can hold it and eat it maybe?
he doesn’t like clothes he loves the feeling of water and pressure and dark and he likes to eat the same things every day and dry food gave him a panic attack and he owns a million of the same swimsuit because of his tactile sensitivity and fixates on a single thing and he doesn’t talk much and he’s not good at socializing and he doesn’t like eye contact and he doesn’t express his emotions conventionally and he doesn’t like to be touched by people he doesn’t know and bright lights scare him HARU IS AUTISTIC
Reading about how autistic children don’t engage in pretend play, it occurs to me that I might have looked like I didn’t do pretend play when I was a kid, because I often didn’t like playing pretend with other kids (it was stressful and confusing to try to figure out what they expected, and my tastes in pretend games ran more towards “We’re part of the lost woodland tribe of elves who talk to ghosts and whose civilization works thusly” and less towards “You be the mommy and I’ll be the baby”), and I didn’t speak out loud when I played by myself (I didn’t need to - I had a running dialogue going inside my head). While I was creating an ongoing soap opera of friendship and betrayal and near-death experiences with my dolls, it might have looked like I was just stimming with them. While I was pretending to be part of said elven tribe, it might have looked like I was wandering aimlessly, lost in my own world.
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I’m currently looking for some mods to help me. Mods who speak a language other than English would be especially useful-anyone who’s interested should drop me a message lynettemcgregor so we can talk more.
All the best,
Applied Behavior Analysis and other forms of behaviorism combine these things in a disastrous way:
- Behavior analysts with highly idealized notions of What People Should Do and How People Learn
- Highly developed behavior modification techniques that can be effectively used to make people do complex things at the direction of the therapist
- Disabled people who are socially devalued to the point that behavior analysts are given free rein to modify their behavior
- A hierarchy of behaviorists, in which lower level behaviorists have to rigidly follow the plans of those above them in the hierarchy (and take data proving that they have done so) regardless of what the person they’re doing it to communicates
This is present at the heart of ABA culture. Behavior analysts have a notion of how they’d like the world to be, and they use powerless people with disabilities as props to make the world look that way.
Some BCBAs mean well; some don’t. Most BCBAs probably believe that they are helping vulnerable people to learn in the only way possible. Some BCBAs even teach some of their students useful skills using the principles of behavior analysis. None of that solves the core problem in behaviorist culture. The combination of ideology and power is dangerous, no matter how well-meaning those who wield it are.
All behavior therapists have far, far more power to control their students than anyone should ever have. Complex effective behavior modification techniques create a dangerous level of power in themselves. In a better world, this could be moderated by a professional culture that acknowledged the danger in this power and had rigorous standards about using it in consensual ways. Behaviorist professional culture could be like that, but it isn’t.
All of them are part of a professional culture that constantly gives them the message that the level of power they have over their students is necessary and important, and that it’s the only possible way their student can be ok in any way. (They may even be getting the message that they don’t have enough power over their students, and taught to lament the fact that they don’t have enough power to be truly effective.)
It’s possible to use behaviorist principles to teach someone how to dress themself. It’s just as possible to use the same principles to teach someone that she must wear only feminine clothing or that he must never wear a skirt. And that’s an easy line to cross without even realizing it. Behaviorists have highly developed techniques for controlling behavior. They don’t have highly developed techniques for *refraining* from controlling behavior, or being ethical about *which* behavior they’re controlling. They have vaguely defined professional ethics about not hurting people, but that’s nowhere near good enough.
This problem plays out in any number of ways.
It’s like — a hydra. Some of the heads are things like electric shock and starvation. And other heads are taking away everything a victim loves and making them earn it back with compliance. Or training children that stimming and other forms of autistic body language are wrong. Or forcing children to enact the therapist’s stereotypes of appropriate play.
Some of the heads are much subtler. Some of them don’t have words yet. Any head of the hydra, by itself, represents a serious violation. None of them is the entire problem.
Any BCBA can cut some of those heads off the hydra, and say “Not all BCBAs are like that!”. Or “nobody uses electric shock anyone; that was in the 70s!” or “My ABA is play-based” or “I give kids frequent breaks; no 2-hour sessions of DTT here,” or “I would never extinguish stimming.”
But cutting off some of the obvious heads, or even all of the heads that self advocates have found words for, doesn’t solve the basic problems.
The hydra is still there even if all of the named heads are cut off. Cut off all of the heads anyone has found words for, and you still have the basic problem of people with extreme levels of power to modify the behavior of people with disabilities in arbitrary ways. Behaviorism will never be ok until that problem is solved.
It might be possible to be a behaviorist without being part of the hydra. If anyone’s doing it, it’s Dave Hingsburger and some of his students. But people who want to use principles of behavior therapy in a respectful (or even just non-abusive) way face a tremendous barrier to entry in the field. In order to become a BCBA high up enough in the hierarchy to write programs following your values, you have to spend a lot of hours doing entry-level behavior therapy works. That means following someone else’s program. That means doing a lot of harm to innocent people with disabilities, unless you can somehow find a supervisor who goes against the entire culture of behaviorism to treat people with disabilities as fully human.
tl;dr Behaviorism has some potentially legitimate applications, but the professional culture of behaviorism is deeply committed to abuse of power. It’s nearly impossible to be a behavior therapist without doing profoundly degrading and damaging things to people who deserve better. (And if you think you’re doing so, I’d like to hear about how you’re managing that).
a little post of cool stimmy things and where to find them
- thimbles (anywhere that sells sewing or craft supplies)
- tangle toys
- space bracelets ( 1, 2, 3, 4 )
- how to make rainbow suds
- how to make/ where to buy glitter jars
- play dough/ plasticine (any where that sells toys)
- chew bracelets/ necklaces
- put some craft glue ( can be found anywhere that sells craft supplies ) on your skin and pick it off throughout the day
- if you go to a place that sells fabrics, find a fabric you like and ask for a sample, you should be able to get a little bit of that fabric free of charge instead of buying a big chunk of fabric that you don’t need (please don’t abuse this though)
- a calming playlist
okay, so, when people (mostly autistic people) headcanon characters as autistic, they talk about what the character’s special interest would be
and it always seems like the special interest is something that would, sorta, advance their life in some way? like a career useful special interest kinda thing? if that makes sense
i mean, in a lot of stories the special interest would usually be something that would objectively help the character and the story in whatever way to get to the end goal of the story
but, in real life, that end goal isnt there. so, a lot of times it feels like whatever special interest i have, wont be useful in life, so its just sorta pointless? i guess, like, if it wont help me take down some dictator then its wrong, not legit in a way?
idk. idk if this makes any sense
i understand what you mean about this but honestly-your special interests are totally valid, no matter how “useful” they are. as long as they make YOU happy, that’s all that matters
i have depression too, and personally, for me, while my special interests don’t have any practical uses, they can be really helpful for me mental health wise. like if i’m feeling low i know i can stick a community dvd on or even just think about the characters or something and it usually makes me feel a lot better.
that’s what a special interest should be, imo.
If you’re pro choice and support eugenics, then you’re just as much trash as the worst pro-lifers. People say that it’s “the parents choice,” and yeah- I agree with that in any other situation- they’re too young, cant afford it, aren’t ready for children, it’s a child of…
I do agree with you, I can’t and won’t force a woman to do anything they dont want to, but if they do abort because their baby was disabled and then go straight back to trying for another kid cuz the last one was “bad” I’m gonna think they’re a shitty ass person
oh yeah same definitely, glad we’ve cleared that up!
If you’re pro choice and support eugenics, then you’re just as much trash as the worst pro-lifers. People say that it’s “the parents choice,” and yeah- I agree with that in any other situation- they’re too young, cant afford it, aren’t ready for children, it’s a child of rape/etc. Eugenics is NOT equivalent to those.
Eugenics is exactly like gendercide. Would you support parents finding out their child is a girl and aborting it? No? Then why the fuck would you support aborting a child because they have a disability- crippling defects that mean they would die very quickly after birth do not count (in my book) btw, I’m referring to things like down syndrome which affects mental functioning but does not shorten lifespan.
But seriously. Disabled people are people too, dont write us off as nothing, as worthy of dying just because we are mentally/physically different than you. If you do, that makes you just as bad as the people who kill us.
i agree with this but i also think that even if someone is aborting a foetus for ableist reasons they should still have the right to do so. You can;t take away someone’s right to do with their body what they want to do, even if the reason they are doing so is harmful towards a group of people.
After all, if someone if wiling to have an abortion purely to avoid having a disabled child, if they were forced to carry the pregnancy to term can you imagine the suffering and abuse that child would endure?
Obviously I do not think people SHOULD do this and that there needs to be a lot of education and acceptance regarding disability to prevent this from happening, but there’s no way of physically stopping someone from doing it.
(It’s quote possible you agree with me but it wasn’t clear from this post so if I’ve misunderstood something feel free to let me know<3)